Dennis Quaid who is old enough to be gal pal Laura Savoie’s grandfather, and then some, proposed to the 26-year-old student in Hawaii. What are the odds of this lasting?
The ideal age gap between couples one- to five-years, according to most research. An age gap of 10 years or more is likely to end in divorce.
but what about a 40-year age gap? Quaid is 65 years old and has a son who is older than his fiance.
Quaid told tabloids the proposal was far from “spontaneous.”
He says he spent six weeks planning how to pop the question to his girlfriend. He waited until they were on vacation in Oahu, Hawaii to make his move.
But the proposal wasn’t without some trepidation. He says he decided “on a whim” to flash the engagement ring last weekend, while they were taking a selfie in front of the sunset over Turtle Bay.
“I had the ring in my pocket. It has been kind of a month-and-a-half plan — I wanted it to be private,” he told “Extra” in Hawaii.
“She was actually taking a selfie of us, and I put the ring in front and said, ‘Will you marry me?’ And then she fell down.
“It happened on the very northernmost point of Oahu, at Turtle Bay. It was kind of spontaneous. It was very much a surprise,” he recounts.
The 65-year-old actor has been dating the 26-year-old student for several months. She is working on her PhD at the University of Texas. He’s eligible to collect Social Security.
“Age is one of the least likely factors to happiness in a relationship,” she says. “Relationships are made happy when they are based on trust, commitment, and an understanding and respect of the other person’s experiences,” Ruschelle Khanna, a licensed clinical social worker, and psychotherapist told MyDomaine.
“There is evidence that relationships with age gaps present are actually happier than the average.”
Quaid has been around the block more than once.
He was previously married to P. J. Soles, a German-born actress, from 1978 until 1983. She was actually four years older than Quaid and is now 69.
Eight years after their divorce, he married actress Meg Ryan, who was seven years younger when they got hitched in 1991. She’s now 57.
His son Jack with Meg is now 27.
The divorced in 2001 and he moved on. Three years later me married real estate agent Kimberly Buffington. She was 17 years younger than the actor. She’s 48 now.
They had two children together, 11-year-old twins Thomas Boone Quaid and Zoe Grace Quaid.
Buffington-Quaid filed for divorce in 2012, claiming the marriage had “become insupportable because of discord or conflict of personalities.”
the couple reunited in spring of 2013, and divorce proceedings were dismissed by a judge. But the wheels finally fell off the marriage in 2016.
Dennis previously opened up about his past romances, insisting that he doesn’t regret any of his relationships. He insisted he’s learned to “look back at them with fondness”.
“Live and let live. That’s really the course of things. I look back at the things I worried about ten years ago and I can’t even remember what they were, really,” he says.
“After you’ve been apart, after relationships end. The once hot emotions mellow over the years and you forget about it. And you look back with fondness.”
Experts say the May-December relationships can expect to have problems friends, family, and strangers, who find it hard to relate to one person or the other.
“Twenty-something kids will probably think it’s gross to hand around someone old enough to be their grandfather, and it’s hard to see how a geriatric partner can keep up with someone in their twenties,” says one expert.
Plus, she’s entering child-bearing age and Quaid would have to live to 85 or older to have a meaningful relationship with a child at this point.
“The good news is those issues can be handled, just like any other relationship issue — regardless of age. You just have to know how,” according to WebMD, an online health portal.