Lily Allen, the UK singer, says women should be more open about masturbation.
The 35-year-old singer recently tied the knot with ‘Stranger Things’ actor David Harbour.
To celebrate, she has just launched her own sex toy called “The Liberty” and has encouraged women to speak freely about sexual pleasure.
“It’s still such a taboo subject but it’s something most people do. So why wouldn’t we talk about it with pride and without guilt?” she said on BBC’s Radio 1 show “Newsbeat.”
Masturbation can actually be good for your health, both mentally and physically, according to most medical references.
And it’s pretty much the safest sex out there. The risk of getting pregnant or getting an STD is zero.
When you have an orgasm, your body releases endorphins, which are hormones that block pain and make you feel good.
But only 38 percent of women say they have masturbated at all during the past year. The figure for men was 61 percent, according to a recent study based on a representative sample of American adults, reported in Psychology Today magazine.
“When a woman talks about masturbation, it’s always: ‘Well you’re clearly not getting sex from a male partner so you must be undesirable – or disappointed with your partner’s ability.’ It’s lazy, archaic and just not true,” she adds.
“You can do it yourself and then enjoy it with your partner. It’s quite a co-dependent attitude to pleasure – that we have to rely on someone else – when we’re perfectly capable of doing it ourselves.
“If you’re hungry, you don’t wait until your partner gets home to have a slice of toast!”
Lily also that she was “objectified and a vessel for male pleasure” during sex when she was younger but she has now taken control of her sex life.
“I felt very alone and not very well-versed in this subject. And then going into my 20s, it felt like it was something everybody else was doing but nobody talked about and I didn’t engage with it,” she explained.
“I felt I was objectified and a vessel for male pleasure when it came to my sex in my adolescence. It wasn’t until I committed to masturbation, self love and ultimately sex toys that I considered my own needs.
“And I’m in a much healthier place now at the grand old age of 35. I wish I’d come to terms with it much sooner, it would’ve saved me a lot of headaches!”
The study by University of Chicago sociologists analyzed data from 3,116 Americans aged 18 to 60 (1,769 women and 1,347 men).
The fact that questions were asked in face-to-face interviews may have suppressed the results, the sociologists say.
In the study, women aged 20 to 39 were the most likely to masturbate. Lower rates were found among women 18 to 20 and those over 40.
But can you masturbate too much?
Masturbation only becomes “too much” if it gets in the way of your job, your responsibilities, or your social life. If that’s a problem for you, you may want to talk to a counselor or therapist, according to Planned Parenthood, which does sex counseling.